I used to refer to myself as a mirror breaker (well, okay, I suppose I still do). With shield and sword in hand, I’d confidently walk in and make a raucous, not entirely sure of the consequences that would ensue or what outcomes I was aiming for. As someone who has quite a bit of fire in me, it seemed to me that throwing fire balls was the best use of my energy… Better to cast stones, than to allow myself to burn away in my own self-inflicted bonfires.
There is something terrifying about having to see ourselves clearly, to take ownership of our faults and the ways in which move through the world, the dramas that we personally create out of confusion, fear and insecurity. The accepted programming we’ve been given defaults in finding the issue in someone else. THEY did it. THEY were the problem. THEY did this to ME. We’ve all heard these stories, and we’ve all played into them.
Each person we meet is a mirror, showing us where our strengths and positive attributes are, while also pointing to where we haven’t quite figured it out. For clarity of this idea, you can literally imagine each person carrying a mirror, varying in size. Smaller mirrors are more common, whereas what is reflected is minimal, making it difficult to take a clear look at oneself (there is usually little desire to go much deeper than surface level). Carrying a big mirror requires great responsibility, and in so these types of people are constantly learning how to keep their own mirrors clean, for if they don’t they know they will not be happy with what life reflects back to them. As we keep our mirrors clean, it’s easier to identify what is being reflected back to us and wherein the lesson can be found.
Those working with smaller mirrors tend to have smaller comfort zones. Limited aspects of self are highlighted, making the growth process slower, and at times we can see how this stifles growth completely. Smaller mirrors tend to attract other small mirrors, and growth is reduced because our edges aren’t highlighted (and our edges are where we’re meant to grow!). When looking at the energy of groups, small mirrors tend to stay closer together, reflecting back similar energy, as it normalizes life experience and validates thinking that makes people feel safe and secure. This is how group think can be so appealing for those who find themselves there. In this way, small minded belief systems that hold no truth can normalize, crystallizing in realities that keep people stuck and from progressing into the next stage of their personal and collective evolution.
When we interact with others, we are constantly receiving information, but it’s not always clear what it is we are seeing. Our initial response is to filter the experience through our channels of understanding, and usually this is done in such a way that protects our egos. This gets complicated, as the means humans do this is infinitely dynamic and is highly dependent on the type of stories people have told themselves and are working to affirm in their everyday reality. It could be projecting an issue onto someone else, but it could equally be integrating the negative experience as a personal fault if one’s self-esteem is low.
The thing is, what we deem as reality is often totally made up by our thoughts and beliefs. We can tell a story that paints our self or another person or an experience in a certain light, but the actuality of the situation is far different than what we’re depicting. It might seem very real to us, but as humans we typically take our experiences and bend them to fit our level of perception. If we can’t handle the truth of what we’re seeing, because it would mean there was some aspect of our self or another we don’t want to look at, we can easily manipulate the details, unconsciously, to package it up into something more digestible.
We all serve as mirrors for one another, constantly reflecting back to one another who we are, who we’ve been or who we’d like to be. It is not our job to seek to be the mirror for another, as this is happening whether or not we are aware of it, and ultimately how someone else interprets our interactions is out of our control. What we can strive for is to understand what is being reflected back to us, and why. It requires an absolute humbleness, a rawness of spirit and a deep courage to see things as they truly are, because it means coming to terms with how we’ve designed our own reality (or in unconsciousness, how reality was designed for us). When we understand the truth of what is being reflected back to us, we can consciously choose to design new realities more aligned with the best possible versions of ourselves.
Do you see how mirror energy works in your life? In what ways are you working to clear your own mirror to see the truth of the situation, rather than projecting to protect yourself? Are there any current situations in your life where you might choose to look at something from a different perspective?